Women Hating Women

Samantha Brick and Claudia Connell are on a mission. Their mission, which they have clearly already accepted, is to bring feminism to its knees.

Samantha Brick thinks we all hate her because she is so freaking gorgeous. I don't know anyone who particularly disliked her until she started telling us all what haterz we are.

Claudia Connell announced that she hated Katherine Jenkins and Victoria Pendleton on sight and it is so oh-my-Gosh not-at-all because she is envious. She's not envious by the way. She'd never want to look like the stunning Katherine or be successful like the incredible Victoria. No no no. She's much happier writing about how women hate each other. Did I mention she's not envious?

The first point I should make is that neither woman has a sound argument. Neither woman produced anything more than drivel. Neither woman has managed to look anything other than pathetic. Neither woman has any awareness whatsoever.

I must explain myself at this point. I realise I just gave Bricko and Claudz a telling off for hating women, and now I'm going to point out some of the worst things women say. My reasoning for this is that I think there is a small minority who are taking every measure to bring feminism down. I do not think the entire female population is hating on every gorgeous, successful woman who walks by. Similarly, I do not think that every woman looked at by another woman walks away smiling and thinking "That girl hates me for my stunning good looks". Most women I know are simply lovely. And most men for that matter.

I think most of us see people. Tall people, small people, blonde people, brunette people, people wearing sandals, people wearing hats, people with willies, people with vaginas. We may judge and we may have petty reasons for disliking each other, but most of us don't see our entire gender as threats and competition wherever we look. We have to stop trying to bring each other down.

Here are a few things I have heard which are punching feminism right in its gorgeous face;

"I don't let my boyfriend go out to clubs. It's not that I don't trust him, it's that I don't trust other women".
Hm. That's strange for three reasons..
1) Because you are a woman. Are you basically announcing that you would not hesitate to get with a married man or a man with a boyfriend? That makes you look awesome.
2) If a woman tries to grope your boyfriend, he is within his rights to ask her to stop. Similarly, if someone kisses your boyfriend, he does not have to accept said kiss. My boyfriend can go wherever he likes because I trust him and I don't think women are going to pounce on him and, if they did, I'm sure he could manage to avoid ending up in bed with them.
and 3) No. You don't trust your boyfriend. At all. And that's sad. Do you want to talk about it?

"She's had sex with 6 people. What a whore".
That's not very nice. She might have really fancied them. And made a happy, thought-out decision to have sex with them. And used protection. And completely respected both her partners and herself throughout. Having sex does not a slut make. As the famous quote from the wonderful film goes.. "We have got to stop calling each other sluts and whores. It just makes it okay for guys to call us sluts and whores". And before you know it, a girl who has had sex with multiple partners is then raped and suddenly part of the human population become the worst kind of cruel imaginable.

"Women only pretend to like sport to get a man".
I love sport. My boyfriend is not interested in sport at all. I still watch football every week. And tennis. And cricket when it's the Ashes. And rugby. And athletics. I even play computer games like Football Manager. And I get all excited and cheer when I'm playing table-football. And I do these despite my other half thinking I'm nuts. And I do these at home by myself when nobody is there to be totes impressed by what a tomboy I am. Lordy I'm just so desperate for a man.

"I'd never want to look like her. She's way too thin/curvy/tall/small/blonde/brunette etc".
That's fine. You don't have to look like her. You're pretty much stuck looking like you. Which I'd think you were happy with, were you not announcing how much you would hate to look like Angelina Jolie.

"Ewww. Look at her hairy armpits! I'd never have hairy armpits! I hate ladies with hairy armpits. I win the battle of the bald armpits. Love me!"
If you have to bring down your fellow females for skipping a day with their Venus razor, you must be very sad. You may choose to have smooth-as-a-baby's-bum armpits and that is totally fine. That is your choice. Just like it is every woman's choice. An article was written recently about Pixie Lott going out with stubble under her arms. How can this be newsworthy? It sounds to me like someone was tired of Pixie Lott being so perfect (which she totes is by the way) and jumped on the first thing they could class as an imperfection.

Ladies. Feminism exists because females were sick of being second class citizens. Feminism is still important today because, although we can vote and we can drive cars which some in other countries are still not allowed to do, misogyny does still exist in our society. And there is no way we can rid sexism altogether if women are making it okay to hate women, to call women sluts, to hate women on first sight, to ridicule women for sweating or for spending a day without a razor.

Love your fellow women. And love men too.

I wish we could all get along like we used to.. I wish I could bake a cake filled with rainbows and smiles and everyone would eat and be happy.. I possibly just have a lot of feelings.

Ps. It is not okay for a girl to hit a man. That had nothing to do with this but I think it's very important.